Tuesday, April 07, 2009

The Quarter-Life Crisis

This is from a popular forward warranting a lot of nods in "my gen"!;-)

-Bhavana

"BEING IN TWENTIES - SOMETHING... :)

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. You want to settle down for good because now all of a sudden that becomes top priority. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.You begin to think a companion for life is better than a hundred in the shack and for once you would not mind standing tall for that special someone which otherwise you had never thought of until now.You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it.We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends.... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...

We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis""

Technically...

Technically- i jst love dis word! Add it as a disclaimer to any situation "technically i dint say that/ mean that/ write that"- and u cud "technically" get away wid murder!!

U knw some words, they hav a way of becoming more than they seem capable of..another case in point, take generally! I mean "generally hez a nice guy"- v.subtly thr u point-blank negated all the bad stuff hez potentially capable of!! Or ""generally" i dont feel like it"- the word magically encompasses a multitude of possible reasons rt frm stomach ache to moodiness to an alien attack!! Without actually subjecting the othr party of the deep morass of conflicting emotions tht r possibly playing kabaddi in ur head! Wow!! Generally, its such a clean, non-commital, antiseptic, emotionally void word tht "technically" really bothers me but sumhw is essential 2 our vocab! Ouch!!

Actually, maybe wht really bothers me is the comfort-zone tht this word offers, the neat way in which one can get away frm nt answering the "why" tht may othrwise follow..

Then r v all running away? Frm sumthg, questions, commitment? To ppl, ideas, plans?

Maybe..

Thr goes, here's anothr one of those! Maybe maybe nt, but "someday" i m gonna list all these generics down!!
::cudnt resist the last one;-)::

Saturday, April 04, 2009

Sugar and Spice

Food! Ah, the best friend we turn to for comfort, the companion which indulges us, the element tht's a great pick-me-up, the perfect conversation starter that leads us 2 form new relationships or even mend old ones, test our limits, get in touch wid d baser instincts within, the exoticity of which forces us 2 get out of comfort zones and explore alternative realities(cuisinewise and maybe who knws, even otherwise!!) ..Food- the perfect friend, matchmaker, stressbuster, teacher.. Food- life's kinda incomplete widout the experiences it enriches us wid, dnt u think?!:D sigh,

A diehard foodie:D